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Saturday – The Mall

I’m not going to lie. I spent three hours walking around a busy mall and I didn’t make one single approach. I was under the impression that day game would be much easier than night game. It didn’t seem so in this case. I was just plain nervous and every time I thought about approaching I turned into a nervous wreck. I think it’s time to start making better use of the 3 second rule so I won’t have time to think about it.

Saturday – At The Bar

Ok, the bar sarging turned out to be exponentially more successful then my mall attempt. During the first 30 minutes of entering the bar I was able to get four approaches in and even more by the end of the night. Also, I had a ton of fun, which certainly helped with my vibing.

Approach 12: After checking my coat, I noticed that everyone in this particular room was more dressed up in formal attire than other rooms in the bar. There was a HB near me so I just went up to her and asked, “why is everyone so dressed up down here?” She definitely didn’t want anything to do with me because her answer didn’t even make sense saying, “oh yea right.” WTF. She quickly fled the scene. I’m assuming her mind was distracted at the time of my approach or she has ADD.

Approach 13: Me and wingman Stick are standing in the middle of the room. I notice a four set standing next to us so I quickly approach not knowing what I’m going to open with. I ask one of the HBs if there is some sort of Christmas party going on. She tells me that it is indeed a private party and I probably shouldn’t be down here. Haha, we crashed a party, nice! I say that I’ll try to stick around and joke that I know her now so it is ok to be there. She introduces me to her friends who seem to be more receptive to my banter. I introduce them to wingman Stick. We all have a conversation for a bit but it eventually fizzles out with an awkward silence, so I ejected knowing I could always re-approach later on.

Approach 14: I’m waiting at the bar trying to order some drinks. I spot a HB out of the corner of my eye. She is standing behind me, also waiting to order a drink. I turn around and say,

Savage: it looks like it might be a bit of a wait for drinks
HB: oh no
Savage: I’ll keep you occupied while we wait. so, are you friends with the host?
HB: not really, I only know her through other friends. You?
Savage: oh, I’m kind of the same, I’m a friend of a friend of a friend. Actually, I probably shouldn’t even be here.

She immediately jumps into small talk, asking me all kinds of questions, “where you from? what do you do? etc.” (IOI). We talk about this stuff for a bit until some alpha guy at the bar interrupts me. He noticed that I had been waiting forever to get my drinks and motions for me to take his spot so I can get the bartenders attention. I took his spot because I did want to get my drinks, figuring I could re-initiate with the HB. At first I thought the alpha guy was trying to cock block me but he seemed like he was just trying to be nice.

Approach 15: After moving to the spot at the bar and finally getting my drink order in I turned to another HB who was sitting next to me and said,

Savage: Hey is this supposed to be some sort of Christmas party?
HB: uh oh, you mean you weren’t invited! (smiling)
Savage: ummm, oh….actually, I was. I’m friends with…umm….Bill. You know, Bill from accounting? (said in a joking way)
HB: Ohhh right…..Bill from Accounting, huh? How do you know him?
Savage: Me and Bill, we go wayyyyy back. We’re real tight. (still joking)
HB: haha, ok, well it was nice meeting you. (she turns and continues talking to her other friends.)

Approach 16: We decided to leave the party section of the bar for a bit because we had to meet up with two old college friends (LJBFs). After meeting up with them in the main bar area we told them that they should come with us to infiltrate the Christmas party in the other room. They agreed and we went to go but had to wait in line to get back in!

While waiting in the line a really cute HB jumped in the line behind me. I turned around and greeted her with a simple, “Hi”. I told her I’d keep her company while we waited. She turned out to be very flirty as we joked around with each other. I even got in some good kino on her arms and back. Unfortunately we got separated once we entered the party room.

Approach 17: The party had picked up quite a bit and there were tons of people dancing. We got onto the dance floor with the LJBFs and I started getting jiggy with it. There was a group of 5 HBs dancing near us. I locked eye contact with one HB8 and extended my arm out motioning for her to take my hand. She did. I twirled her around and started doing my seductive dance thing with her. She gets really into it and is kinoing me like crazy.

While dancing, the HB8 whispers in my ear that it’s her friends birthday. I ask which one and she says the girl in the pink. I walk up to HBpink, grab her hand and twirl her a few times. Then I give her a quick kiss on the cheek and say, “happy birthday!”. She was a bit shocked by this at first but then decided to attack me with her dancing. HBpink is grinding up on me and then her friend, HB8, starts grinding me from behind so that I am now in a HB sandwich…..and it was pretty good;)

I danced with these HBs for the next 20 minutes. Eventually the bar was closing and the bouncers were kicking people out. I tried number closing HB8 but she said she had a fiancee and gave me a final compliment saying that I was a terrific dancer.

Approach 18: We get a cab to go home but decide to stop at one of our local pubs for last call. At the pub, there weren’t many people, but did manage to open a two set of girls sitting down at a table. I told them my revolving door story and some jokes. By this time it was pretty late and I was tired so I politely ejected and went home.


The attempt at sarging at the mall was a failure but I made some real progress later in the night with seven cold approaches. The first few approaches of the night really got me warmed up for approaching later on. Also, I was doing a lot of flirting with the LJBFs and think I could potentially escalate with one of them. At least things are progressing and I am getting my approach count up.

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